I Want to Get Divorced, but Where Do I Start?.

When a relationship comes to an end, it can be difficult to know what comes next - what are the most important things to consider when instigating divorce proceedings?

A separation is never easy but it can be even more stressful for couples involved in running a business or owning valuable property. Sonali Obhrai, who specialises in high net worth divorce cases at Lanyon Bowdler Solicitors, shares her four golden rules to help start the process on the right track…

1. Get qualified advice

Getting early guidance advice from a specialist family solicitor helps separating couples understand their options and make informed decisions. Once you understand the process, timescales and likely costs, everything becomes much clearer.

2. Start with a positive mindset

It’s important to focus on a positive separation which reduces unnecessary conflict. A clear head supports better decision making.

3. View court as a last resort

There are lots of options to explore before heading to court. Non Court Dispute Resolution (NCDR) is a good way to try to resolve disputes, whether that relates to sorting out child arrangements or the division of assets.

Mediation and other forms of NCDR, such as arbitration, are not just for those separations that are amicable. Entrenched disputes can still be resolved through NCDR because it moves the focus away from blame and towards problem solving.

4. Focus on the future

Having a long-term outlook can help achieve a positive outcome. Approaches that reduce conflict and promote cooperation can have lasting benefits which affect family dynamics for years to come.